If you actually want something, you can have it. the question then is what do you mean by actually want? and the answer is, you reorient your life in every possible way to make the probability that that will occur as certain as possible. and that’s a sacrificial idea right? it’s like, you don’t get everything, obviously… but maybe you can have what you need, and maybe all you have to do to get it is ask; but asking isn’t a whim, or today’s wish. you have to be deadly serious about it.